Posted By  richards on November 7, 2013    
				
				  Confronted with an unprecedentedly secular crop of youngsters,  Jewish leaders are pushing marriage within the community harder  than ever. Their favorite tool? Youth group.
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    An acquaintance gave a few of us a ride after the annual    post-Yom Kippur feast. Stuffed with bagels, lox, kugel, and    every kind of pound cake imaginable, the four of us chatted    happily about life in D.C., past trips to Israel, and guilt    over skipping religious services earlier that day.  
    And then the conversation turned to dating.  
    Would you ever marry a non-Jew? Sharon asked from the    backseat. Answers varied; one person said she wasnt sure,    while another said she might consider marrying someone who was    willing to convert. Debates about intermarriage, or marriage    outside of the faith, are common in the Jewish community, but    her question still struck me as remarkable. Here were four    twentysomething women who hardly knew each other, already    talking about the eventuality of marriage and apparently    radical possibility that we would ever commit our lives to    someone unlike us. This conversation seemed very    un-Millennialas a whole,     our generation is marrying later, becoming    more secular, and     embracing different cultures more than any of our    predecessors. If the same question had been asked about any    other aspect of our shared identitiesbeing white, being    educated, coming from middle or upper-middle class    backgroundsit would have seemed impolite, if not offensive.  
    Why Would a Millennial Become a Priest or a    Nun?  
    Although many religious people want to marry someone of the    same faith, the issue is particularly complicated for Jews: For    many, faith is tied tightly to ethnicity as a matter of    religious teaching. Jews do accept conversion, but it's a long    and difficult process, even in Reform communitiesas of 2013,    only     2 percent of the Jewish population are converts. Meanwhile,    the cultural memory of the Holocaust and the racialized    persecution of the Jews still looms large, making the prospect    of a dwindling population particularly sensitive.  
    The lesson, then, that many Jewish kids absorb at an early age    is that their heritage comes with responsibilitiesespecially    when it comes to getting married and having kids.  
    In large part, thats because Jewish organizations put a lot of    time and money into spreading precisely this message. For the    Jewish leaders who believe this is important for the future of    the faith, youth group, road trips, summer camp, and online    dating are the primary tools they use in the battle to preserve    their people.  
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Convincing Millennials to 'Marry a Nice Jewish Boy'
				
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