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Marriage Arrangements Involve A Contract And Sex That Sometimes Comes With A Manual

While Hasidic Judaism frowns on arranged marriages by force, couples are often "encouraged" to get together by their families and community.Parents often consult with a matchmaker known as a shadchan to find a suitable partner for their child. The potential bride and groom typically have several "dates" to get to know each other and make sure they see a futuretogether.

When it's decided that the two are going to be bound to one another, a formal contract is signed.The contract, orketubah, lists the obligations that a husband has to his wife. Sometimes the couple write their ownketubah, sometimes they include traditional content. The contract is intended to protect the wife from being mistreated,but it canalso be considereda tool of Hasidic Jewish patriarchy.

After the contract is signed, the final step in a marital union is sex. Sex is supposed to be a way for the couple to become closer andjoin together spiritually and physically. Because the husband and wife are virgins, the wedding night can be awkward and some couples may use manuals prepared for them prior to getting married.

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